For the past few weeks I've been laying lower than I usually do online. After the newspaper article in VG, people from various stages of my past have contacted me, some just to say "hi", while others are expressing their support. There have of course been the odd threat and some unsupportive messages, but I've come to learn that being hated just comes with the territory.
I have juggled several job interviews and job tryouts while this has been going on, all the while working at our Beverly Hills salon whenever I have time.
Still, I feel unfulfilled – in a way I'm not sure I'm able to even understand myself. Am I trying hard enough? What about all those 'wasted' years of self-pity and trauma therapy? All in the past now, phew.
I don't feel like I need a break in any way, nor do I regret any life choices I have made. I guess being fresh out of college comes with both joy and pride, and a fear of the uncertain. I wonder where I will be in 5 years. I guess I'll just have to wait and see.
I have some great things in the works right now, both together with my husband and by myself. Just to mention one thing; we're launching our first jewelry line together.
I am aware that nothing about the future is absolutely certain, but I can't help feeling excited and hopeful, grateful and motivated about my own future. It feels really great not to be so anxious all the time, and to feel the creativity oozing from my veins. I guess I must be doing something right.
After sharing my story in VG, I can finally say that the past is in the past, and exciting adventures await me in the near-future.
“Hedonistic Hell” -- Really? Coming from ultra liberal Scandinavia which prides itself on being the best place in the world for women to live, work, and raise children. Also, women in Scandinavia have a right to wear whatever they please. It should be needless to say, but hey guys, it's 2018.
For the last couple of days I’ve been reading about the incredibly bad reviews Britney Spears’ concerts in Denmark and Norway have received. It seems like almost every major newspaper has given her the lowest possible score, usually a 1/6 on the dice.
I’ve read several of these reviews, and the professional reviewers tend to focus mostly on how astonishing her dancing is, what an incredible stage performance it is, and the fact that she started the show with her first, but perhaps biggest hits, like “Oops I Did It Again” and “Baby One More Time”. Like that's news to anyone.
Their reason for the incredibly low score, at least according to the newspaper articles, is the fact that she’s lip syncing.
Britney has never claimed to be Beyoncé or Christina Aguilera. When you’re going to a Britney show, you’re not going to hear her sing live. You’re going there to experience what an incredible entertainer she is. She revolutionized the pop music industry, and has had more success than most can dream of. Including these petty reporters.
Then, something came to my mind… Not too long ago, I read articles in all the major Scandinavian newspapers about the ban on photography at her concerts. The ban applies to members of the press only. Naturally, the professional photographers and their press organizations are pissed off by this. They want to make money. They claim this is infringing on the freedom of the press.
I’m not saying I necessarily disagree with that argument, but guess what Britney’s response to the critique is?
Britney says she wants the fans to be able to enjoy the show, uninterrupted by professional photographers occupying most of the space in the closest vicinity to the stage. She also said she wants her fans to take their own photos, and enjoy the experience to the fullest, and encouraged her fans to share the photos on social media.
Bad journalism, guys. Just bad. Be kinder to the lady, she's been to hell and back, and she's still here, rocking it, entertaining millions of people around the world.
She is a living legend, and just for putting up with all the crap the media and the public tend to throw at her, she should be praised, and deserves far more than a score of 1 out of 6. Remember, she's a human being too.
Life is so full of surprises. Both good and bad. But how do you deal with the bad, without losing your cool?
When I wake up in the morning, I sometimes think to myself "well, what's next?", and then the phone rings... You know how this goes.
This summer we have lost family members, friends, and pets, a sad and tough process for anyone to experience. Up until this summer I didn't really have much experience dealing with this sort of thing, but I've learned a thing or two while this has been going on.
First of all, I think it's important to set aside enough time to grieve, and process the loss. Light a candle, light some sage, pray, talk to someone you trust, or do whatever it is that you do to get in touch with your spiritual side. However, there's not always enough time in the day to sit down and process.
Life and work still happens while you're processing the loss of a loved one, or another traumatic event, and that's where proper and timely communication comes in handy. I had to delay a few important work-related tasks while this was all going on, but luckily I was met with understanding, and was given the time I needed in order to move on.
I know that it is not always that simple. Sometimes you just can't put life on hold, even though you feel like you need to. The stakes might be too high. You don't want to fail that class, or lose your job, because you are going through something stressful.
So what do you do? There's actually an app for that. I think I would dare to say that it can help you master life, while actually dealing with your trauma at the same time.
I've used the app 'Pacifica for Stress & Anxiety' for almost a year now, and it lets me log my feelings, my general mood, and I can also track health habits, like sleep and caffeine intake. When I open the app and log my general mood, I also get the option to do a 'daily exercise', like a five minute guided meditation, a journal entry, or browsing through inspiring and uplifting quotes to add to my hope board.
I usually spend anywhere from 1 minute to 10 minutes on this app daily. My favorite feature is how customizable everything is, especially the tracking of health habits. It has given me great insight in my own health habits, and also motivated me to make changes where needed.
Another feature I like, is that the app lets you send detailed reports to your health professional. I have not used this feature, but I have spoken to others who have. You simply choose what information you want to share with your health care provider, locate your health care provider on a list, or simply put in their email address. Your doctor or therapist might already be accessible on the app, and can work with you through the tools available.
Pacifica has truly reduced both my stress and anxiety, gradually over time, and I hope it might help you when you're dealing with a stressful situation.
It's available on the App Store and Google Play.
FYI, I decided to purchase a lifetime subscription of the full version of the app, but the app is amazing without the premium features, so you won't have to spend a cent trying it out. If you want to try the full access version, their pricing is $8.99/month, $53.99/year, $199.99/lifetime.
Please note that I am not a health care professional, and I would advise you to consult a doctor before making any decisions regarding your health.
I am not affiliated with Pacifica, Apple, Google, or any other company or brand name mentioned in this article, and have not received any financial incentives for publishing it. I am simply sharing my personal experience with this product.
I'm Lars, born and raised in Norway, living the dream in California.